I read that same sentence "abandon all shame" and it is where I have had reservations and probably holding me back in making connections. I know I am busy and

I read that same sentence "abandon all shame" and it is where I have had reservations and probably holding me back in making connections. I know I am busy and don't feel like I should be wasting other people's time with trivial pursuits when in reality they are probably thinking the same. I would take a engineer / scientific approach. Adopt one methodology at some events and use flattery / shamelessness at another. Compare results.