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Hey, confidence is a broad topic made up of a lot of skills, habits and forces. Think of it as an ecosystem of parts... To speak simply, it comes and goes. Like

by crdr88 12y ago

Hey, confidence is a broad topic made up of a lot of skills, habits and forces. Think of it as an ecosystem of parts... To speak simply, it comes and goes. Like waves. No one is 100% confident all the time. You're 'secure' around people you hang out with because you're comfortable around them the same with the area you focus on. That's not confidence. Confidence is elusive and reacts well with the unknown. You cannot play safe with confidence. You have to go outside the barriers and push limits further than you can imagine. No one can guarantee confidence, but you, its a road of bumps and bruises. Hit the gym, work on your appearance, take daily risks and expand your knowledge, you'll feel better about yourself to harness the power and responsibility that comes with confidence. Which most don't. Most people fake it to make it. This doesn't work. It's like building a robust program. Strong code, strong functionality, Great User Interface. You got a hit. Fight for something in your life. That's a huge one, that's where passion lives. Check out a book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Those are the 13 skills to master to become confident. Real World Experience that you can use immediately. Books on Leadership is another great resource.

ADanFromCanada 12y ago
Think and Grow Rich is a classic and I'd also recommend reading it. But it's less about Confidence and more centrally about Drive. What makes this a good recommendation though is that Drive, in my experience, renders Confidence essentially moot. If you're sufficiently driven, you won't let low confidence or low self-esteem get in the way of getting what you want/winning. But that said, Drive doesn't help you be more successful/participatory in a team meeting.
- crdr88 12y ago
  I think Drive and Confidence are mutually exclusive. Being confident without drive is being smug and complacent. Being driven without confidence teeders on the line of reckless arrogance Think and Grow Rich is for people who have lost all hope. It was written in the Depression era. The secret ingredient, that he doesn't refer to that all the 13 principles add up to, in my opinion, is Confidence. Confidence to save money, Confidence in creating desire in yourself. Even people who have lost their limbs and continue to be self-sufficient, it's confidence. Check out a book called StartUp Leadership by Derek Lidow, Drive doesn't always have to be Forward and Determined.. It's more of Letting your actions of taking a project or helping a project being the best it can be. Team Drive is extremely powerful. Hence importance of Culture in organizations... Where in Canada are you from? I'm From Calgary,AB
  - ADanFromCanada 12y ago
    Interesting perspective. It would be interesting to try to understand which of our biases led us both to each of our conclusions. I really felt/feel strongly that the book was about Drive.. but anyway, that's not exactly a discussion to have on HN haha. To answer your question, I'm originally from Toronto but living in Montreal now. You should consider moving out here :) (I would say that to anyone from Calgary haha)

by crdr88 12y ago

ADanFromCanada 12y ago

Think and Grow Rich is a classic and I'd also recommend reading it. But it's less about Confidence and more centrally about Drive. What makes this a good recommendation though is that Drive, in my experience, renders Confidence essentially moot. If you're sufficiently driven, you won't let low confidence or low self-esteem get in the way of getting what you want/winning. But that said, Drive doesn't help you be more successful/participatory in a team meeting.

crdr88 12y ago
I think Drive and Confidence are mutually exclusive. Being confident without drive is being smug and complacent. Being driven without confidence teeders on the line of reckless arrogance Think and Grow Rich is for people who have lost all hope. It was written in the Depression era. The secret ingredient, that he doesn't refer to that all the 13 principles add up to, in my opinion, is Confidence. Confidence to save money, Confidence in creating desire in yourself. Even people who have lost their limbs and continue to be self-sufficient, it's confidence. Check out a book called StartUp Leadership by Derek Lidow, Drive doesn't always have to be Forward and Determined.. It's more of Letting your actions of taking a project or helping a project being the best it can be. Team Drive is extremely powerful. Hence importance of Culture in organizations... Where in Canada are you from? I'm From Calgary,AB
- ADanFromCanada 12y ago
  Interesting perspective. It would be interesting to try to understand which of our biases led us both to each of our conclusions. I really felt/feel strongly that the book was about Drive.. but anyway, that's not exactly a discussion to have on HN haha. To answer your question, I'm originally from Toronto but living in Montreal now. You should consider moving out here :) (I would say that to anyone from Calgary haha)