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Hardly delusional and seriously un-fun when you are on the receiving end. When my son was 6-ish and my daughter around 1 years old, we got a visit from DFS(lik
by jgoewert 12y ago
Hardly delusional and seriously un-fun when you are on the receiving end.
When my son was 6-ish and my daughter around 1 years old, we got a visit from DFS(like CPS). This was 8 years ago and the amount of rage it brings up in me is immense. Being immediately threatened with your child being taken away for refusing to do ANYTHING that they ask is ridiculous. I'm sure it is there to be able to have some power over the deadbeats, but when you think you are a normal family doing nothing wrong, it is pure rage inducing.
They tour your entire house. They check your fridge and food preparation areas. They check your yard. They interview your kids wherever they are. So if it is at school, guess what, they school now thinks you are a craptastic parent because only some shithole would have DFS called out on them. Of course, that rumor-mill then goes full force. We were never treated the same by anyone at the school ever again. Our kids never got invited to any more parties. No one there ever wanted to set up play dates anymore.
When the DFS agent finally gets around to telling you the reason for the visit, it is an anonymous complaint. That's right. Anonymous, even if you are proven to be completely not in violation and it is some crackpot calling them up to report you, you will never find out who that person is.
Ours was anecdotes and funny stories we had told some neighbors. Like the time that our son took off his dirty diaper and painted a wall with it, including behind a shelf that he put back and we didn't notice for a month and as such hadn't cleaned until then.
Yeah. Our life got seriously messed up on something we had no way to deter or counteract. Crazy neighbor could call them again anytime and send our lives on a spiral.
Hit by a meteor. I would have much more preferred that as I would have a chunk of meteorite to sell.
- innguest 12y agoThanks for opening my eyes. I didn't want kids before, and I knew if I had them I'd home-school them, not spank them, teach them negotiation skills and so on, but knowing anyone can call CPS, anonymously and without consequences, and put me through that traumatizing and exasperating ordeal, makes me think it's not a matter of desire but prudence. I can totally understand your rage. I can't imagine another kind of reaction. It is very irresponsible and callous of CPS to act in that way. But then again what did I expect from the guvmint... Thanks for relating your story.
- pnathan 12y agoWhere do you live?