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A no asshole rule is bullshit. What you want is a no bully rule. Being harsh is alright. The people are respect the most are those that have the balls to come
by Raphmedia 12y ago
A no asshole rule is bullshit. What you want is a no bully rule.
Being harsh is alright. The people are respect the most are those that have the balls to come up to me and say "your idea is rubbish, your point of view is stupid". Yes, this guy is an asshole. But he is a good one.
What you want to avoid is the bullies. The ones that will insult you for no reason. Belittle people to feel better. Those are the ones that are dangerous for a team.
Everybody is an asshole from the point of view of someone else.
- edtechdev 12y ago> Everybody is an asshole from the point of view of someone else. Agreed. One man's asshole is another man's best friend. Also, and perhaps more commonly, people behave differently to different people and in different circumstances. I've never met someone who was an asshole to their boss, even if they acted assholey in general to everyone else. Bullying is a bit easier to operationally define, focused on behavior, not attitudes or personality traits as much.
- shanusmagnus 12y agoI know it's kind of popular in hacker culture to claim that you can't possibly disagree or critique without being a total dick, a la Linus, but it just isn't true. It's an excuse and nothing more. If you're in surgery or under fire in a foxhole or are storming into a burning building then perhaps you don't have mental attention to modulate your tone of voice. Otherwise, act like a professional adult. It's not that hard.