In any relationship, it's important to set limits. If you don't, if you permit others to transgress your boundaries, you are likely to become the victim of dom

In any relationship, it's important to set limits. If you don't, if you permit others to transgress your boundaries, you are likely to become the victim of domestic abuse. In my particular case, I wish now that I'd put a lock on the door of my office. My now ex-wife was heavily into how I should make my cables somehow go away. She felt they were ugly. I regarded this as hurtful, I always wanted to point out to her that "My computer cables make my computers go. Without them I would be unemployed." HOWEVER! It is also important not to let your work run your life. That was another mistake I made; to the extent you possibly can, make time for her every single day. Take the weekends off. Given the way things ultimately turned out, I regard it as being for the best that we are divorced. But there are many ways that things did not have to turn out that way. To the extent that we worked together towards a common purpose, we got along really, really well. I did not realize that, not in a conscious way, until just recently.