I used to struggle with is this too. So I started with the basics. Stay alive; breathe; eat, drink, sleep; get laid (with someone else in the room); stay fit; g

I used to struggle with is this too. So I started with the basics. Stay alive; breathe; eat, drink, sleep; get laid (with someone else in the room); stay fit; get rich; be happy. That was my first list, and I just added concrete goals to each as time went on. Eat now includes a constraint (never again will I eat what I don't like) with a goal (healthy, balanced). Sex was easy and I now have a son. That in turn changed other goals. I keep refining. When I don't know I don't push it. It will come.