This is the argument of the ages, no? I would say moral codes are about trying to use your agency to do good, not bad; there's no obvious reason why "doing goo

This is the argument of the ages, no? I would say moral codes are about trying to use your agency to do good, not bad; there's no obvious reason why "doing good" would always and everywhere equate with "easy to cope with". You claim you're not doing a #s game but I think I can prove that you are, even if you're not yet aware of it. Consider this alternative scenario: the trolley is hurtling towards the 5 men as before and you've got the option of throwing a switch; what's new is that this time the switch moves the train into an empty railyard, saving the five lives at no one's expense. The #s game is removed and it's just a case of: do you think yourself morally obligated to throw the switch and save the lives, or not? Careful here.