I don't have any advice, but you seem to suggest that the whole "scene" is problematic. Ignoring that is a massive sweeping statement, perhaps consider if you a

I don't have any advice, but you seem to suggest that the whole "scene" is problematic. Ignoring that is a massive sweeping statement, perhaps consider if you are causing yourself to be the problem - you've already decided you're not interested in meeting anyone here, because you've already formed opinions. You might do better to take it as you find it.