The midwife waited much longer than I would consider safe with the information I have now - at the time we had no idea of how bad the long term consequences cou

The midwife waited much longer than I would consider safe with the information I have now - at the time we had no idea of how bad the long term consequences could be, we just knew it was agonising for my wife but everyone always goes on about how painful childbirth is so we had no idea what was normal. We later had an appointment with our attending obstetrician to go over our case notes, and she said that midwives with a stronger focus on natural childbirth will often leave mothers pushing for longer than a hospital or more "conventional" midwife would. Then getting rushed to hospital takes longer than you'd think - 45 mins end to end for us, and we live in a small town. Once there my wife was assessed for risk, the ob/gyn came about 30 mins later because there didn't seem to be any immediate danger for her, then there's a protocol to be followed before any intervention takes place - it all adds up to a surprisingly long time. Congratulations on your second child, I'm glad that went well and that your wife has recovered - that's really great.