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Before this year I have spent most of my life with more than enough social contact, often it felt like too much. But suddenly the amount of socialising and qual

Before this year I have spent most of my life with more than enough social contact, often it felt like too much. But suddenly the amount of socialising and quality of it plummeted because I moved house in the summer. At first I thought that I could make it into an opportunity, that I could use my solitude to do the things I'd been putting off. It turns out however that I physically need people in my life but not only their presence, I need good quality conversation. My mood has become volatile and I'm enjoying things less. Things seem less interesting and I feel disconnected from society. Basically I learnt how much I need people in my life. I'm currently learning how to deal with their absence before I can move to a better place.

computerjunkie 12y ago
Real good advice there. I have been living in semi-solitude for the past couple of months and its truly unpleasant. I'm definitely going to be interacting more now.
- tbirdz 12y ago
  I wouldn't worry about it. I've been living in semi-solitude for the past few years. There is an adjustment period, but eventually you get used to it.
k-mcgrady 12y ago
I went through the exact same thing a few years ago. I've always been a loner (I have a decent group of friends but I'm happy to see them once/twice a month when they see each other several times a week). Then I moved abroad. I thought it would be fine but I quickly realised how much that once/twice a month mattered and the lack of social contact/failure to meet new people because of anxiety caused me to be very 'down' for several months. It was strange to find myself craving social interaction considering how often I made excuses to get out of it before. It's also interesting to note that having daily contact with these people on Facebook/Skype etc. wasn't a substitute. Without it I would have been even more depressed, it definitely helped, but it was no where close to a decent substitute.

computerjunkie 12y ago

Real good advice there. I have been living in semi-solitude for the past couple of months and its truly unpleasant. I'm definitely going to be interacting more now.

tbirdz 12y ago
I wouldn't worry about it. I've been living in semi-solitude for the past few years. There is an adjustment period, but eventually you get used to it.

k-mcgrady 12y ago

I went through the exact same thing a few years ago. I've always been a loner (I have a decent group of friends but I'm happy to see them once/twice a month when they see each other several times a week). Then I moved abroad. I thought it would be fine but I quickly realised how much that once/twice a month mattered and the lack of social contact/failure to meet new people because of anxiety caused me to be very 'down' for several months. It was strange to find myself craving social interaction considering how often I made excuses to get out of it before. It's also interesting to note that having daily contact with these people on Facebook/Skype etc. wasn't a substitute. Without it I would have been even more depressed, it definitely helped, but it was no where close to a decent substitute.