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A lot of programmers tend to be late bloomers to the dating scene. While some would see this as a negative, I actually see it as a positive. Dating can be a maj
by hkarthik 12y ago
A lot of programmers tend to be late bloomers to the dating scene. While some would see this as a negative, I actually see it as a positive. Dating can be a major distraction at a crucial time in a young person's life when they are getting an education, starting their careers, and beginning to build their financial history.
I have seen friends and siblings in their 20s that expend a lot of time, energy, and money on the dating scene with very little to show for it by the time they reach their 30s.
Many of my programmer friends, on the other hand, settled down fairly quickly (married their 1st or 2nd girlfriend) and could spend their formative years honing their skills, education, and careers. Also they could set themselves up better financially by paying down debts, acquiring assets, and saving for their future. By the time they hit their 30s, their careers are taking off, they have a very solid financial foundation, and they are on much better footing for future endeavors.
- wannano 12y agoI agree. I don't think we're mature enough at a young age for that kind of commitment which often times ends in catastrophic drama and can put a toll on your education/career/finances.
- hkarthik 12y agoI think it depends on the individual as to whether you're ready for commitment at a young age or not. Some are and many aren't. The issue is that society sort of assumes you are ready for it regardless and there's a lot of social pressure to date. Even if you're ill prepared for it, and likely to lose a lot in the process. You may be better off just sitting things out and focusing on something else, but your friends and family members will label you an anti-social nerd (or worse) because you opt out.