How old are you? I did really badly with girls and women in general as a teenager and young adult, but I started connecting more when I grew up more, and my fir

How old are you? I did really badly with girls and women in general as a teenager and young adult, but I started connecting more when I grew up more, and my first stable relationship started at 29. I think I was a bit slow to develop emotionally, and I did not know how to relate to/interact with women (it sounds silly in retrospect, but it happened). I disagree a bit with the "relax and let it happen" advice, I think you have to actively do some activities to meet with people more, etc. if you find yourself not meeting girls. Edit: almost all the programmers/nerds I know in my age range have wives or girlfriends. Most didn't in their teens or early 20s.