> as males we won't ever have to make quite the same decision that the author made Millions of men--gay and straight--all over the world take care of their chi

> as males we won't ever have to make quite the same decision that the author made Millions of men--gay and straight--all over the world take care of their children by themselves, and face exactly the same choices the author does. So why anyone would ever suggest that men don't face these choices or have to make these decisions is entirely unclear. Men are parents too. Many men are single parents. Many married men are as or more involved in care-giving than their partner. We are in a minority, but times change. Fifteen or twenty years ago I was frequently the only man at the pool or the park with small children. Today I'm gratified to see lots of young men--often heavily tattooed and looking like they'd happily go a few rounds with a grizzly bear for fun--out with their wee ones. One day we might even imagine a world were everyone doesn't assume that simply because I'm a man I don't know how to change a diaper or cook a nutritious meal or comfort a crying child. Men are enormously short-changed by this attitude that somehow we aren't and can't ever be the primary care-giver for our children. It diminishes us and limits our choices and pushes our lives into narrow, sterile, avenues.