That's the big thing for me. It's not the lack of a witty response or a canned reply. It's knowing you did something for free, out of love, and there's an endle

That's the big thing for me. It's not the lack of a witty response or a canned reply. It's knowing you did something for free, out of love, and there's an endless stream out people going "more! more!" and getting angry when you won't accommodate their edge case. I had my phone number on one of my personal sites so friends could get in touch with me. Took it down after a week because people would call me in the middle of the day for plugin support, even though there's a forum for support. There's nothing inherently wrong with that, it just wears you down. Makes you afraid to check email or answer the phone. Edit: Without getting too deep into personal territory, I'm coming to terms with the fact certain aspects of my childhood trained me to always put other people's needs above my own. Saying "no" has a psychological cost for me because I reflexively beat myself up for being a selfish person.