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I am the exact same way. When I'm at home, I'm always afraid of keeping up the same persona. I have very bad social anxiety at home, I'm terrible at talking t
by saryant 12y ago
I am the exact same way.
When I'm at home, I'm always afraid of keeping up the same persona. I have very bad social anxiety at home, I'm terrible at talking to people at gatherings, haven't been on a date in four years.
But when I'm traveling, none of that matters:
> Travel is amazing because you literally have no preconceived notions or expectations from other people so you can experiment and be different versions of yourself and no one will be the wiser.
You're 100% right. I go overseas and I have no trouble meeting new people, enjoying myself at bars and clubs, asking a cute fellow traveler out to coffee in Taipei or wherever the hell I am.
The trick is learning how to bring that home. Still figuring that one out though I've gotten better.
- nickthemagicman 12y agoWhat if you can't bring it home? What if your home environment is arranged such that you're at a significant disadvantage or there's toxic situations happening that keep you socially anxious at home? Obviously your social anxiety stems from 'being at home'. Maybe there's actual tangible external reasons causing it at home that you're not even aware of....
- saryant 12y agoYou're probably right. My anxiety at home even manifests as eczema, such that it completely disappears when I'm traveling but reoccurs the day before I fly home.
- Evolved 12y agoIt might just be fear of upsetting the balance that home life provides even if you tend to gravitate towards the organized chaos to which you've become accustomed.
- saryant 12y agoThat makes sense. Much of my anxiety is just remnants of some real bad shit I went through four years ago. Part of my reluctance towards getting close to people is a fear that I'll fall into the same situation I was in back then.