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>In my recent tales of online dating I've run into this a lot The reason why Tinder won and OkCupid lost so horrifically (okcupid in my area has gone from an o
by tedks 12y ago
>In my recent tales of online dating I've run into this a lot
The reason why Tinder won and OkCupid lost so horrifically (okcupid in my area has gone from an oasis to desert in less than a year...) is because people are literally unable to even conceptualize their own interests and desires in the world we find ourselves in.
That's why okcupid profils all say they love laughing, having a good time, traveling, and are easy-going and down-to-earth. We've produced a society of totally formless humans, able to take whatever cog-shape is presented to them, and live out a meek, subservient life punctuated by crappy pictures of the Eiffel Tower or maybe, if they're really adventurous, St. Peter's Basilica.
I think Tinder's success is a great example of this in the startup sense, because they noticed hey, if most people just look at pictures and ignore all this quiz-and-essay nonsense then why not just do that? It's a recognition that people don't have personalities, they'll just mold to fit whatever they're placed in front of.
I think the next Tinder, then, going by this trend, is a machine-learning driven service that just gives you one match a day, based on how attractive you both are given your photos and measurements. You can talk and exchange outside contact information if you want, and if not you can block them/wait for the next day.
- fragsworth 12y ago> It's a recognition that people don't have personalities, they'll just mold to fit whatever they're placed in front of. I've seen so many relationships end in disaster because of this. In the beginning of the relationship, one or both participants will pretend to be someone they're not, so they can please the other one. Later, they always revert to their normal behavior, and this usually ends the relationship.
- tedks 12y agoI would say that they get bored, and where they were willing to put in effort (which all relationships require) at the beginning, they aren't now. Which again, isn't surprising. Even people who get married and think they'll be together for the rest of their life get bored and leave about half the time. I think that the trend is towards shorter, less emotional relationships, because nobody wants to get serious; everyone wants to have fun. Nothing that's not fun is worth doing. Who knows, maybe the next Tinder will be more like Uber.
- walru 12y agoYou're more spot on than I'd wish you were. This is so sad.
- tedks 12y agoWe live in depressing times.