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More than that, we have a lot of narcissism-enhancing, or at least narcissism-displaying, tools. In the form of social networks.

by gordaco 12y ago

ivraatiems 12y ago
Oh, yes, for sure. I just didn't want to bring them up and have my comment be too on the nose ;)
Namrog84 12y ago
As we complain about narcissism enhancing social websites as we are on a social place portraying our own views and opinions. The line is a fuzzy one.
- ivraatiems 12y ago
  It's true! I keep refreshing the page to see if people are upvoting me (I think that's what we call it on HN?). But some narcissism is healthy; the problem is more when it's allowed to run rampant or become the sole purpose behind some behavior. It's the difference between posting because you have something to say, hoping people might agree, and posting because you need people to agree with you.
  - Filthy_casual 12y ago
    I think spamming refresh happens not because you're narcissist but because you are eager to see if your opinion is well-received by others. That can be unhealthy. It's one thing to get feedback from multiple sources to notice things and behaviors that are harmful or unwanted (like being cocky or people feeling you're argumentative) and another if you're anxious to learn whether or not others will find value in what you said. It's roughly like... The "nice guy syndrome", where a person is engaged with what others expect from him so much that he undermines what he personally wants. In online forum terms this might mean that you're commenting in favor of the popular opinion of the forum and not voicing your own opinion to see whether it has flaws or not. Naturally, this is one of the many reasons why a community becomes an "echo chamber".
- Dewie 12y ago
  I think I post a lot on places like HN to compensate for a lack of a social life. It's not like I even try to form any connection with people on forums online, so I'm not making friends, but I think there is a connection.

More than that, we have a lot of narcissism-enhancing, or at least narcissism-displaying, tools. In the form of social networks.

by gordaco 12y ago

More than that, we have a lot of narcissism-enhancing, or at least narcissism-displaying, tools. In the form of social networks.

ivraatiems 12y ago

Oh, yes, for sure. I just didn't want to bring them up and have my comment be too on the nose ;)

Namrog84 12y ago

As we complain about narcissism enhancing social websites as we are on a social place portraying our own views and opinions. The line is a fuzzy one.

ivraatiems 12y ago
It's true! I keep refreshing the page to see if people are upvoting me (I think that's what we call it on HN?). But some narcissism is healthy; the problem is more when it's allowed to run rampant or become the sole purpose behind some behavior. It's the difference between posting because you have something to say, hoping people might agree, and posting because you need people to agree with you.
- Filthy_casual 12y ago
  I think spamming refresh happens not because you're narcissist but because you are eager to see if your opinion is well-received by others. That can be unhealthy. It's one thing to get feedback from multiple sources to notice things and behaviors that are harmful or unwanted (like being cocky or people feeling you're argumentative) and another if you're anxious to learn whether or not others will find value in what you said. It's roughly like... The "nice guy syndrome", where a person is engaged with what others expect from him so much that he undermines what he personally wants. In online forum terms this might mean that you're commenting in favor of the popular opinion of the forum and not voicing your own opinion to see whether it has flaws or not. Naturally, this is one of the many reasons why a community becomes an "echo chamber".
Dewie 12y ago
I think I post a lot on places like HN to compensate for a lack of a social life. It's not like I even try to form any connection with people on forums online, so I'm not making friends, but I think there is a connection.