> What you can do, and have done, is claim that aspie sensitivities are more important than female ones because aspies are somehow a greater contribution to the

> What you can do, and have done, is claim that aspie sensitivities are more important than female ones because aspies are somehow a greater contribution to the world. Not at all what I claimed. I'm talking about overly sensitive people, not women. I know tons and tons and tons of people, women included, who are not overly sensitive and who are able to handle situations like an adult and focus on the task at hand, which in the case of open source is building software and writing code. It's not a therapy session. It's about building things and that is more important than feelings. Your feelings are my distraction. I'm actually the go-between at work between those people think are assholes and some people that are overly sensitive. I quietly hate the role I play and wish I didn't have to waste time trying to protect people from their emotions. It's exhausting. The overly sensitive people often hijack technical discussions and try to make those discussions about something that matters to them personally and that makes the discussion no longer about the code and technical matters that the group is trying to solve. Furthermore, just as many overly-sensitive men as women are responsible for hijacking technical discussions to talk about feelings. In fact, I probably witness men being overly sensitive about some social issue with greater frequency (probably due to base rates in our industry). I also didn't claim that aspies tend to be sexist, but that they tend to either not place importance on how their word choice might be interpreted or they might not even be aware that their word choice did offend. It's mentally taxing and expensive to deal with overly sensitive people who lose focus on the task at hand because they feel offended or hurt. Terms like "microagressions"[0] aren't even part of the aspie vocabulary. Due to my own morbid curiosity, I spent a bunch of time reading about microagressions and I was like, "yeah, a bunch of these types of things happen to me all the time too. What's the big fucking deal?". I don't think anything of them. People who dwell on them are only blocking themselves. All I could think of when reading them was Bob Newhart's skit "Stop It!"[1]. It's bad enough that people do that to themselves, but the people who are vocal about them are forcing others to dwell on their own personal issues, wasting everyone's time. That's exactly what Sharp did by calling out Torvalds. Calling Torvalds out and playing the victim card was a massive waste of everyone else's time and did nothing to contribute to the technical discussion at the time. If people want similar project with different culture to exist, there is a more civil solution, go write a project from scratch or fork a project written by assholes and recruit all the overly-sensitive people to participate in trying to make it better. I wish you the best of luck, but what you shouldn't do is come into anyone else's house that they built and call them out on how they behave in their house. [0] http://microaggressions.tumblr.com/ http://microaggressions.tumblr.com/ [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow0lr63y4Mw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow0lr63y4Mw