> I think what he's saying (which I kinda agree with) is that you have to treat it as actually something that you have to work at, rather than it coming natural

> I think what he's saying (which I kinda agree with) is that you have to treat it as actually something that you have to work at, rather than it coming naturally. Who believes that there are any alternatives? Shy people and people with social anxiety (etc.) don't have a reputation for spontaneously becoming outgoing and so on.