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> I'm not trying to be a jerk, but how many friends you do or don't have is entirely up to you. Right, because someone with no friends probably have never thou
by Dewie 12y ago
> I'm not trying to be a jerk, but how many friends you do or don't have is entirely up to you.
Right, because someone with no friends probably have never thought or believed that it is their own fault for being shy/uninteresting/boring (and that they're shy/uninteresting/boring in part because ... they have no friends). It has probably never crossed their mind at all.
> I'm an introvert and it is tough meeting people. I'm not saying it is easy to move out of your comfort zone, but it is necessary. If you want to be more social and have more friends, then make conscious effort be more social and make more friends.
In order to be social, you need to try to be social. Right.
- joncrocks 12y agoI think what he's saying (which I kinda agree with) is that you have to treat it as actually something that you have to work at, rather than it coming naturally. So he's not saying that you 'have to try and be social', he's saying 'work at it'. That means doing things that you may not want to do right now, to pay-off later.
- Dewie 12y ago> I think what he's saying (which I kinda agree with) is that you have to treat it as actually something that you have to work at, rather than it coming naturally. Who believes that there are any alternatives? Shy people and people with social anxiety (etc.) don't have a reputation for spontaneously becoming outgoing and so on.