> but it's a shame people's dinner conversations or even pub conversations will be taken as their official edicts and sanctioned pronouncements --when lots of

> but it's a shame people's dinner conversations or even pub conversations will be taken as their official edicts and sanctioned pronouncements --when lots of times there is boasting, bravado, nervousness and other times there are threats and other unsavory conduct. Here's the thing. As someone who hears that conversation, I can't tell if you are just running your mouth or serious. Moreover, for someone who could feel unsafe in a space because of that, they can't tell if they really are safe or not. Lastly, if things like gamer gate show us anything, there are a whole host of people who will act on what you say when they hear it and hearing those things reaffirms their worldview and actions. Making idle jokes or claims about harassing a someone isn't appropriate.