I've lived in and traveled to quite a few cities as well. The OP has good points unique to SF, but I feel that a lot of his points are applicable to almost any

I've lived in and traveled to quite a few cities as well. The OP has good points unique to SF, but I feel that a lot of his points are applicable to almost any city. * Difficulty to make real friends; meeting a lot of d-bags. * Traffic/waiting for everything. * Public transit in any major US city (except perhaps NYC) -- everyone always complains, even if it's decent. (IMO, SF's is at least decent.) * Cities have rich areas and poor areas, safe areas and dangerous areas. West coast cities have homeless people. * Seemingly few non-touristy things to do during the day (in the city at least), outside of the regular coffee/eating (and if you're not into watching sports). I also second that if you're unhappy with where you live, you may just be unhappy with whatever you're doing. But, it is genuinely hard to meet friends and potential dates when you're new to an area, don't know anyone, and aren't in school. Give it a year and put yourself out there!