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I seems that you are in a very sad situation. I wonder what piece of advice could you give to the five years old child to improve his future? Is there a single

I seems that you are in a very sad situation. I wonder what piece of advice could you give to the five years old child to improve his future? Is there a single thing you would change in your past that you think could have contributed to you having a better future? Do you think that posing great expectations in a child is a bad way to prepare him for the future? Do you think someone else can learn something from your experiences? Can you give any advice to take away? What happened when you where 16? How you stagnated? Could you have escaped from that situation? Is the problem about you or it stems from your environment and social circumstances? Sorry for the many questions, just curious to know whether someone can learn an important lesson from such a difficult and sorry experience, wish you the best.

speeder 12y ago
I think in my past the following critical mistakes were made: One, I never made friends, my father is anti-social himself, and as a Christian family in a age were people socialize getting drunk, I never learned how to do that. Most jobs today are NOT posted on internet or classifieds, instead they are advertised to chains of friends of the job poster. Also as Startup owner, my startup make games, and most game startups that had any success, it was because they had important connections (usually with the media, example: Braid, that the author was a journalist, or Minecraft, where journalists used to play online games with him, non-game example: Bill Gates could sell stuff to IBM because his mother asked a friend of hers in IBM board to invite Bill Gates over to see his software). Mistake two: My parents and their very high expectations were highly annoying, making me hate school in general (in fact, I think mandatory schooling is a problem in general, but nevermind now), but also they never taught me to... work. Like I wrote in my post, I could ace any test without any effort. Now that I get into real world jobs, stuff are nothing like tests, you MUST work to get stuff done, and to me that is very hard, it requires enormous amounts of mental effort to pay attention and do what must be done. And what happened when I was 16? Nothing in special, the problem is that I am 26, and I am not one step closer to creating my family than I was when I was 16, I still have no friends, no job, no money, no house, no car, nothing, the only thing "new" on me ever since is my college education, that for now at least is proving to be absolutely useless.
- JoeAltmaier 12y ago
  Practice working/concentrating until its not so hard.
- melvinmt 12y ago
  I don't know who said this but I always remind myself of this quote during desperate times: "Worry is a waste of imagination". In other words, don't waste your brain cycles on things that didn't or don't go well, instead, focus on how you can get out of this situation. Free up space in your mind to come up with the next big game or any other idea. Stay positive, keep the right energy and work hard. I'm fairly confident that when you do this, people will notice and recognize you for your work and attitude.
  - speeder 12y ago
    The problem is that no matter how hard I think, I cannot find a solution. It is not worry, it is despair.
- barbudorojo 12y ago
  Thanks, social connections are very important, that is a great lesson to take away.
- personlurking 12y ago
  For friends, or at least acquaintances, try CouchSurfing in Sao Paulo, even if it's just the weekly event. It may help also in creating a network/hearing about job offers, etc. Plus, there are always people coming and going to the city and therefore to the meetings. You don't have to already know people to go there. As for the no job and no money, I've been there and it surely sucks. Even if it's not your thing, look into being a VA (tipo assistente virtual) cause there will be people in the US/Europe who'll want to pay ever-so-slightly less per hour for someone to do their admin work, fill databases, whatever. This is what I do while I develop my own project and it pays the bills + a little extra. For housing, if your family is a "traditional" Brazilian one, I suppose you live with them still, but when you get enough $$ to even share a room with someone else, use OLX, etc and go to the universities to see housing postings (I know USP has them). For a car, SP is already car-hell, but I know the metro/bus isn't all that pleasant either, though you've got some BRT lines and non-peak hours you can certainly use the metro for. Baby steps, the trick is never to quit. Also, http://www.zdnet.com/top-tech-firms-scout-for-talent-in-brazil-7000035813/ http://www.zdnet.com/top-tech-firms-scout-for-talent-in-braz...

speeder 12y ago

I think in my past the following critical mistakes were made: One, I never made friends, my father is anti-social himself, and as a Christian family in a age were people socialize getting drunk, I never learned how to do that. Most jobs today are NOT posted on internet or classifieds, instead they are advertised to chains of friends of the job poster. Also as Startup owner, my startup make games, and most game startups that had any success, it was because they had important connections (usually with the media, example: Braid, that the author was a journalist, or Minecraft, where journalists used to play online games with him, non-game example: Bill Gates could sell stuff to IBM because his mother asked a friend of hers in IBM board to invite Bill Gates over to see his software). Mistake two: My parents and their very high expectations were highly annoying, making me hate school in general (in fact, I think mandatory schooling is a problem in general, but nevermind now), but also they never taught me to... work. Like I wrote in my post, I could ace any test without any effort. Now that I get into real world jobs, stuff are nothing like tests, you MUST work to get stuff done, and to me that is very hard, it requires enormous amounts of mental effort to pay attention and do what must be done. And what happened when I was 16? Nothing in special, the problem is that I am 26, and I am not one step closer to creating my family than I was when I was 16, I still have no friends, no job, no money, no house, no car, nothing, the only thing "new" on me ever since is my college education, that for now at least is proving to be absolutely useless.

JoeAltmaier 12y ago
Practice working/concentrating until its not so hard.
melvinmt 12y ago
I don't know who said this but I always remind myself of this quote during desperate times: "Worry is a waste of imagination". In other words, don't waste your brain cycles on things that didn't or don't go well, instead, focus on how you can get out of this situation. Free up space in your mind to come up with the next big game or any other idea. Stay positive, keep the right energy and work hard. I'm fairly confident that when you do this, people will notice and recognize you for your work and attitude.
- speeder 12y ago
  The problem is that no matter how hard I think, I cannot find a solution. It is not worry, it is despair.
barbudorojo 12y ago
Thanks, social connections are very important, that is a great lesson to take away.
personlurking 12y ago
For friends, or at least acquaintances, try CouchSurfing in Sao Paulo, even if it's just the weekly event. It may help also in creating a network/hearing about job offers, etc. Plus, there are always people coming and going to the city and therefore to the meetings. You don't have to already know people to go there. As for the no job and no money, I've been there and it surely sucks. Even if it's not your thing, look into being a VA (tipo assistente virtual) cause there will be people in the US/Europe who'll want to pay ever-so-slightly less per hour for someone to do their admin work, fill databases, whatever. This is what I do while I develop my own project and it pays the bills + a little extra. For housing, if your family is a "traditional" Brazilian one, I suppose you live with them still, but when you get enough $$ to even share a room with someone else, use OLX, etc and go to the universities to see housing postings (I know USP has them). For a car, SP is already car-hell, but I know the metro/bus isn't all that pleasant either, though you've got some BRT lines and non-peak hours you can certainly use the metro for. Baby steps, the trick is never to quit. Also, http://www.zdnet.com/top-tech-firms-scout-for-talent-in-brazil-7000035813/ http://www.zdnet.com/top-tech-firms-scout-for-talent-in-braz...