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No. Nobody suspected anything including me, family, friends, and his girlfriend
by tdavis 17y ago
No. Nobody suspected anything including me, family, friends, and his girlfriend
- maxklein 17y agoHas the police ruled out any possibility of foul play?
- cema 17y agoWhy did several people downvote it? Seems a legitimate question. I wish people who mod comments down would at least explain why.
- brandnewlow 17y agoI voted it down because it smelled of HN disease, aka, assuming that because you're really good with computers, you're really good at everything else.
- tdavis 17y agoTheir investigation of the scene pretty much ruled it out. Autopsy results take 4-10 weeks.
- rogerthat 17y agoI apologize in advance if this question is intrusive but is there any possibility it could have been an accident? Sometimes the line can be blurry. Accidental suicides do happen. Especially since there was no note.
- speby 17y agoLeaving a suicide note is supposedly a lot less common than our popular belief (from movies or books that depict fictional suicide situations) tell us...
- jvyduna 17y agoThere's almost no possibility it was accidental. I know it's impossible to stomach and the mind has the find a pattern or assign a reason when facts seem to "not add up". Everyone wants to ask these questions, so I don't fault you for asking.
- tdavis 17y agoUnfortunately, the way I found him pretty much rules that out. I'm foregoing description to be kind to family and friends, but it wasn't something you accidently do. A couple minor things he did directly beforehand which would seem completely innocuous to everybody but me also gives me confidence in the conclusion.
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- cperciva 17y agothe way I found him I didn't realize until seeing this that you were the person who found him. Please don't be afraid to seek counselling if you have flashbacks / nightmares / difficulty sleeping / etc -- post-traumatic stress disorder is very commonly experienced by those who find suicide victims.
- physcab 17y agoMaybe its just me, but there seems to be a stigma regarding the act of seeking counseling. However, people should seek counseling just as often as they would a general practitioner as the mind needs just as much care to stay healthy as does the body. In any case, it's immensely gratifying to have someone who you know will not feel burdened by your issues and can offer you guidance through a very troublesome period of life.
- frossie 17y agothere seems to be a stigma regarding the act of seeking counseling God no - there is a stigma associated with various things that cause people to seek counseling (justifiably or no)- but this sure isn't one of them. I'm very sorry for all involved.
- shiranaihito 17y agoTrue. Without the stigma, you could call it getting help.
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- speby 17y agoYeah, there's a lot of questions and wonder about how someone like Dan, who just... seemed fine and happy (perhaps on the outside), could bring himself to make such a terrible and extreme choice. It's a puzzle that, despite my only knowing him personally to a limited degree, that I may never understand.
- TeHCrAzY 17y agoWouldn't you think that if people hide simple emotions like anger or irritation, that they would hide something far more insidious and serious?
- 9oliYQjP 17y agoThe kind of person that is involved in a startup is typically smart enough to be able to hide the symptoms of depression. These are people who are used to achieving great things and so hiding vulnerabilities is something they get very good at. My thoughts and condolences go out to you and the people affected by this tragedy.