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Funny how the default male response to a women's problem is almost always, "I will tell you a better way to handle this." Almost a cliché at this point.
by smackfu 12y ago
Funny how the default male response to a women's problem is almost always, "I will tell you a better way to handle this." Almost a cliché at this point.
- chippy 12y agoI don't think that is the default male response at all. I am male and that is not my response.
- smackfu 12y agoSorry, I meant "default" as in "most common."
- intortus 12y agoAlso funny how that "better way to handle this" is "be quiet and go away."
- hnha 12y agoSorry for trying to help?! I did not realise that offering advice from personal experience of receiving online death threats (and what I thought was common professional advice from police and law enforcement) was sexist. No more sympathy from me.
- teamhappy 12y agoIm sorry but that's just wrong. Let's change "default male position" and "almost always" to "feels like it after scrolling though this thread". I also think you confuse offering a second opinion with making an absolute statement. So "I will tell you a better way to handle this" becomes "I think this is a better way to handle this". Sound a lot better, doesn't it? I don't want to put words in your mouth but I also think you're implying that the male in your example believes his way is better because he's a man and therefore smarter and all that nonsense. That's just unfair. The irony in phrasing it like that given the context is quite obvious though.
- smackfu 12y ago> I also think you're implying that the male in your example believes his way is better because he's a man and therefore smarter and all that nonsense Oh, definitely not. I think the guy usually has no idea what he is doing and it's just reflexive behavior.
- teamhappy 12y agoFair enough. That's always been true for advice giving though. People usually don't really know what they're talking about and maybe that's okay. Even if the advice sometimes does more harm than good it's certainly almost always well intentioned and that's gotta count for something. Still, I think it's easy to see a double standard in what you said originally and that's just not fair. Maybe I have to explain myself a little better. For the sake of this argument let's assume literally every time a women has a problem in this world a man talks to her and tells her what he thinks she should do. What exactly would be wrong with that?
- anonymousab 12y agoThe default netizen position has always been "don't feed the trolls".