> "How can you not spend 20k or more when there are 200 or more guests?" The short answer is: don't do the expensive things people normally do at their wedding

> "How can you not spend 20k or more when there are 200 or more guests?" The short answer is: don't do the expensive things people normally do at their weddings. It's not required to have a meal at a wedding; some American subcultures expect cake and punch only. It's not required to spend thousands on a single-use dress; my grandma still brags about getting her dress on clearance and being able to wear it for multiple occasions. It's not required to have thousands of dollars of flowers; at my wedding, my mother-in-law and her friends grew flowers in their gardens for us, and my sister's wedding (one week from today) will use the church's silk flowers. You can actually have a wedding with 200+ guests and still come in under $1000 if that happens to align with your priorities.