I'm a minority myself, at least in my current location. People have different experiences, and sometimes they describe an experience you can't relate to. If you

I'm a minority myself, at least in my current location. People have different experiences, and sometimes they describe an experience you can't relate to. If your experiences are uncommon, this will happen to you a lot more. Sorry, just how probability works. Feeling unwelcome is a choice on the part of the listener. Sometimes my friends discuss their parents attempting to arrange a marriage for them, assorted ceremonies, ragging, dowries, and similar things which I've never experienced. I can treat this as an opportunity to feel unwelcome, or I can treat it as an unfamiliar part of my friend's life that he chooses to share with me. I choose to do the latter even when they make grammar mistakes. And quite honestly, I think it would be a bit arrogant of me to demand that everyone in India change their behavior just to avoid reminders that I'm a minority. I guess the new maxim is "When in Rome, demand that Romans act like American tourists so we don't feel unwelcome."