Good points! As a manager, I absolutely hate: "Your team looks to you for leadership." The disturbing thing is, mine kinda does. :) I hope it's because they're

Good points! As a manager, I absolutely hate: "Your team looks to you for leadership." The disturbing thing is, mine kinda does. :) I hope it's because they're untrained in the arts of conflict resolution and "Imagine yourself as more than 1 person". Society relentlessly drills people as hyper-individualized followers. (If it's not just training, may god have mercy on their souls...) Instead of "emotional", better terms might be societal and psychological? For example, part of my training in the male gender is obnoxious use of abstractions unsupported by the particular situation. When people do this, my thoughts turn savage. (Naturally, I try not to do it except when preceded by, "Don't know if it applies, but please let's consider...") Breaking ties & whatnot reinforces your position as boss. This can contradict goals like promoting others as leaders. (Say, in proportion to their disempowerment in society. Because overall they need to be more observant than the more aristocratic types on top.) On firing, is it so hard to help them find a job elsewhere? On rough edges... the more assholish your team, the more rough edges you'll need to show. But ideally, one should escalate from more discreet routes.