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Why not?

wahern 12y ago
Have you ever lived in a foreign country? Specifically one where the culture is drastically different, or where your ethnicity stands out? I have. And it can be draining, no matter your constitution, and even without any identifiable prejudice directed at you. It's part of human nature. Civilization takes work. Things like democracy don't simply pop into existence. It takes an evolution of culture. Male-dominated workplaces need to meet women somewhere in the middle. I think the present situation is unfair, particularly because there are all sorts of men who simply cry, "but why do I have to change my behavior!? "I was here first, and nothing I'm doing is intrinsically wrong!" Those people just don't get it.
- forkmeongithub 12y ago
  I agree with you that things like this take work. But I also feel like it's sentiments like the parent comment that lead to the problem in the first place. Like you mentioned, male-dominated workplaces need to meet women in the middle, but how is that possible when they are completely unsympathetic, as the above comment seems to be?
  - ninavizz 12y ago
    It's not about sympathy, rather its about empathy. And listening. And mindfulness. Not skills the "ninja coder rockstar" person in their 20s, is likely to either have naturally, or to seek cultivation of. These are cultural problems, not of one "ism" or another. Problems that are also in part born from young STEM academic over-achievers leaping from mid-degree coursework, and into the fast-paced world of startuptopia. The gap skipped over, is that one of the slower, social & personal-growth experience college life rigors our emotional skills through. That humanities coursework gives us tools of insight into the human condition, to work from. That shitty part-time jobs in food service or retail, teach us how to have a work ethic and value the work of others, through all involved parties being paid degradingly low wages, doing shit work for uncaring managers, but then relishing what little bits of wonder the crappy paychecks make possible after all the personal-growth the humbling work done for them, made subconsciously possible. We need to all pause from the hustle and bustle of doing things as quickly as possible and with as much risk and for as much money as we each feel we can shoulder. We need to make room to prioritize mindfulness, listening, and just simple human humility. It's not all about people like us. Or, them. We are in this, together. He who dies with the most toys, is simply dead. Not winning.

Why not?

Have you ever lived in a foreign country? Specifically one where the culture is drastically different, or where your ethnicity stands out? I have. And it can be draining, no matter your constitution, and even without any identifiable prejudice directed at you. It's part of human nature. Civilization takes work. Things like democracy don't simply pop into existence. It takes an evolution of culture. Male-dominated workplaces need to meet women somewhere in the middle. I think the present situation is unfair, particularly because there are all sorts of men who simply cry, "but why do I have to change my behavior!? "I was here first, and nothing I'm doing is intrinsically wrong!" Those people just don't get it.

forkmeongithub 12y ago
I agree with you that things like this take work. But I also feel like it's sentiments like the parent comment that lead to the problem in the first place. Like you mentioned, male-dominated workplaces need to meet women in the middle, but how is that possible when they are completely unsympathetic, as the above comment seems to be?
- ninavizz 12y ago
  It's not about sympathy, rather its about empathy. And listening. And mindfulness. Not skills the "ninja coder rockstar" person in their 20s, is likely to either have naturally, or to seek cultivation of. These are cultural problems, not of one "ism" or another. Problems that are also in part born from young STEM academic over-achievers leaping from mid-degree coursework, and into the fast-paced world of startuptopia. The gap skipped over, is that one of the slower, social & personal-growth experience college life rigors our emotional skills through. That humanities coursework gives us tools of insight into the human condition, to work from. That shitty part-time jobs in food service or retail, teach us how to have a work ethic and value the work of others, through all involved parties being paid degradingly low wages, doing shit work for uncaring managers, but then relishing what little bits of wonder the crappy paychecks make possible after all the personal-growth the humbling work done for them, made subconsciously possible. We need to all pause from the hustle and bustle of doing things as quickly as possible and with as much risk and for as much money as we each feel we can shoulder. We need to make room to prioritize mindfulness, listening, and just simple human humility. It's not all about people like us. Or, them. We are in this, together. He who dies with the most toys, is simply dead. Not winning.