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It's a shame that being gay is embarrassing.

• wmf 17y ago
  That's not what I meant.
• sofal 17y ago
  There are reasons for wanting to hide that you're gay that don't come from feeling ashamed. For example you could have close friends and family members who have severe homophobia, but whom you actually love and respect (people are multidimensional). It may or may not be inevitable that they'll find out at some point, but you'd rather have some control of when and how. Throwing up your hands and yelling "if you don't accept me for who I am then screw you!" is not the best way to handle these things. I'm not trying to sidetrack the conversation into gay issues. This applies without loss of generality to other personal identity issues that conflict with one's surrounding culture.