I rarely saw my dad, at times. He worked 2nd and 3rd shift for stretches until I was in 4th grade, then got a management position and put in 60+ hour weeks unt

I rarely saw my dad, at times. He worked 2nd and 3rd shift for stretches until I was in 4th grade, then got a management position and put in 60+ hour weeks until he retired. While going to school at night. While occasionally traveling for work. When he had to go in on weekends, which was often, he'd bring me and I'd sit on a spare souped up 386 in his office while we both worked in relative silence. I remember those times as fondly as some kids probably remember tossing a ball around with their dads. (It helped that we shared interests in sci-fi, movies, and computers.) A stable, care-free life was one of the greatest gifts my parents gave me but it came at a cost - even mom worked 40+ hours a week, me and sis were latch-key kids, we never went on summer trips, dad missed "milestones", etc. Yeah, first world problems, but people (unbelievably) complain about this stuff. I know people who saw their parents all the time - but moved around, went to public school (which were not good where I'm from), and whose parents fought about minor bills all the time or worse - whose parents now cannot afford retirement. tl;dr imo providing a stable life for your kids > spending lots of time with them