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> Teasing, shaming and other forms of negative humor are very hard to do with a positive result. People are astonishingly different in what they can tolerate
by hamburglar 12y ago
> Teasing, shaming and other forms of negative humor are
very hard to do with a positive result. People are
astonishingly different in what they can tolerate and
how they respond. I suppose, with the right people, and
the right team dynamics it can be OK.
So true. I've had great managers that had great rapport with the team and everyone was tight knit enough that the manager could stand in the hall and say "hey, come over here and look at the ridiculous code Bill wrote" and it would all be in good fun, even for the person who was being mocked (being able to laugh at your own mistakes is important, IMO). And on the other hand, I've had terrible managers who aren't able to do it in a good-natured manner and it ends up being mean-spirited, condescending, and morale-killing. There's a surprisingly fine line between "lol, Bill, what were you thinking?" and "Bill wrote bad code and I'm going to call him on it, making everyone on the team uncomfortable, and thus cultivating an environment where everyone lives in fear of making a mistake."
- chris_mahan 12y agoNo. It's never, ever appropriate. Ever.
- hamburglar 12y agoAppropriate versus inappropriate is irrelevant, in my opinion. Can it work? Yes. Is it more likely to backfire and make your team miserable? Yes. Is it something that creates a hostile work environment? Debatable, and definitely situational. I would actually argue that when done right, this sort of smack-talk can be healthy and reassuring to the recipient. It's a bit perverse, but I like a situation where my coworkers respect me enough to make fun of my mistakes without me or them worrying that it actually calls my competence into question. I've worked with people who you can't poke fun at, and it's usually because they actually are somewhat incompetent and making fun of their errors would be cruel.
- chris_mahan 12y agopoking fun at people? It's not funny unless it's funny for everyone. Poking fun in a hurtful way is bullying. Hopefully we never work together.
- hamburglar 12y agoOh, good lord. I thought I made it clear that I wasn't talking about poking fun in a hurtful way. > Hopefully we never work together. Indeed.