However I've seen plenty of people I know go through "suddenly married with kids and wondering what happened to my life." It happens plenty enough. Though I do

However I've seen plenty of people I know go through "suddenly married with kids and wondering what happened to my life." It happens plenty enough. Though I don't think your second point jived with your first very well (as I understand it). If you work hard toward a relationship that will last the rest of your life you aren't going to wonder "what happened to my life," it is going to be a deliberate thought out process toward a mutual goal(s) with plenty of communication and mutual respect for each other's wants and needs at the current moment. The "what happened to my life" crew ended up slowly sliding into their life without fully realizing what was going on until it happened. Or let their partner exert excess pressure into their life decisions without open communication and mutual respect for one and other. Maybe even mistakes such as accidental pregnancy. Also the changing environment you are in - when all your friends start moving towards something you may be just following the crowd because "that's just what you do" rather than completely wanting to do it. I've seen some people just get married for the sake of marriage because "that's what you do" without really picking someone they have long term potential with. I would also argue if you are experiencing a "what happened to my life" moment, you are unhappy with your relationship and what is either is or has become and don't want the relationship to last the rest of your life. "Wondering what happened to my life" is perhaps the cause of many divorces.