For example, I had a female on my team doing community management & social media, and she wanted some help from a male developer. She needed to run some queries

For example, I had a female on my team doing community management & social media, and she wanted some help from a male developer. She needed to run some queries, and wanted the developer to help teach her SQL so she could do them herself. They were queries that she’d need to run over and over again with different nuances and waiting for him to do them every day as the need arose was a massive bottleneck for her workflow and a huge time suck for him. The developer kept saying “oh, just tell me what you need and I’ll get it for you” but she was quite adamant about being taught. I think this part of the article has less to do with sexism and more to do with most programmers are self taught and don't have any desire to teach anyone anything.