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Capacity to "put in effort" varies, for person to person and task to task. And trying to do the same thing and expecting a different result is obviously crazy.

Capacity to "put in effort" varies, for person to person and task to task. And trying to do the same thing and expecting a different result is obviously crazy. For most (myself included) it is sufficient to be educated in diet and exercise and have access to simple healthy foods. But not everyone's brains are wired the same way. You won't fix that minority of people no matter how often you shame them or say it is their fault. You need a different tool, be that professional counseling, restricted environments where they cannot access their drugs in the doses they desire, gastric bypass surgery, or, in many cases, simply accepting that they will lead uncomfortable lives and die early.

silencio 12y ago
Might I add my "effort" to this conversation - I've lost almost 30lbs this year. I know a couple people that have also lost a similar amount of weight with me. We all _look_ like we do the same things - eat less, eat better, walk/jog/gym more. But they're healthy with no chronic problems like me, and their worst problems just don't even compare. I'm the only one completely hopped up on asthma meds and painkillers for nerve damage in my legs while burning through what limited effort I can put in every day (yay ADHD) because I feel my health is more important than working. (Might I add I've had all these issues before I was overweight/obese, or they were caused by something out of my control... so while losing weight is good, it doesn't make anything better.) This is before I even get started on the horror that is telling people to eat healthy while earning a low income - one of the people above is someone I hired for my restaurant, and the drastically increased wage she's been earning under me with a better job in general enables her to eat well and lose weight. You're right. I hate people who fat shame. Everything is conveniently just swept under the rug of "just put in effort" like it doesn't matter, but it really does. I have already come to terms with what it's taking me to lose weight (on a better day when my leg isn't on fire, I'd call my diet/lifestyle change "pretty easy") but to act like that's trivial is beyond insulting.

silencio 12y ago

Might I add my "effort" to this conversation - I've lost almost 30lbs this year. I know a couple people that have also lost a similar amount of weight with me. We all _look_ like we do the same things - eat less, eat better, walk/jog/gym more. But they're healthy with no chronic problems like me, and their worst problems just don't even compare. I'm the only one completely hopped up on asthma meds and painkillers for nerve damage in my legs while burning through what limited effort I can put in every day (yay ADHD) because I feel my health is more important than working. (Might I add I've had all these issues before I was overweight/obese, or they were caused by something out of my control... so while losing weight is good, it doesn't make anything better.) This is before I even get started on the horror that is telling people to eat healthy while earning a low income - one of the people above is someone I hired for my restaurant, and the drastically increased wage she's been earning under me with a better job in general enables her to eat well and lose weight. You're right. I hate people who fat shame. Everything is conveniently just swept under the rug of "just put in effort" like it doesn't matter, but it really does. I have already come to terms with what it's taking me to lose weight (on a better day when my leg isn't on fire, I'd call my diet/lifestyle change "pretty easy") but to act like that's trivial is beyond insulting.