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Isn't this what the police are for? If she just up and left, they didn't get a divorce and he should have certain rights to contact with his kids. Even if they

Isn't this what the police are for? If she just up and left, they didn't get a divorce and he should have certain rights to contact with his kids. Even if they got a divorce he'd probably still have certain rights established when custody was worked out.

zo1 12y ago
You would think that, hey. But I've been recently reading up about the subject, and it seems that father's rights when it comes to children and their custody is wildly skewed in favor of the mother. Look online and you'll find countless stories about perfectly reasonable fathers not getting custody, while they claim the mother is bad (Crazy,addict,something).
- at-fates-hands 12y ago
  While this may have been true 10-15 years ago (I speak from experience and have been through this horrible system) things are starting to turn around. For instance, 10 years ago when the court determined support, it only looked at what the Father's income was. In some state's, it's a percentage of up to 40% of your income if you got a judge that didn't like you. This means if you're 22 and working at Pizza Hut making $8/hour and the judge says for child support you have to have 40% of your wages garnished to pay support would put you well under the poverty line. This is regardless of whether your girlfriend had a cushy corporate gig making $60K a year with full benefits. Nowadays, there's been a big push for father's rights and father's rights attorneys are becoming a lot more common. The courts are starting to change course on a lot of previous frameworks. For instance, just on the income issue alone, most courts now look at both parents income when deciding child support. What if your girlfriend isn't working? Too bad, the court now takes into account if you have a college degree and basically assigns you a "potential income" based on previous work history and educational background to come to an estimated income. It's a lot fairer, but there were some really long, painful years being an unwed father and having to pay support.
- zorpner 12y ago
  I've been recently reading up about the subject ... Look online and you'll find countless stories... Your cognitive biases are being exploited by people with an agenda.
slowmotiony 12y ago
Yup, when somebody takes away your kids be sure to just call the cops and wait. Surely this will solve the whole thing right up.
- 6d0debc071 12y ago
  Stalking and harassment, on the other hand, will surely be greatly in his favour if he ever has to go to court to get custody or visitation rights. Or if she decides to make a complaint about him.

zo1 12y ago

You would think that, hey. But I've been recently reading up about the subject, and it seems that father's rights when it comes to children and their custody is wildly skewed in favor of the mother. Look online and you'll find countless stories about perfectly reasonable fathers not getting custody, while they claim the mother is bad (Crazy,addict,something).

at-fates-hands 12y ago
While this may have been true 10-15 years ago (I speak from experience and have been through this horrible system) things are starting to turn around. For instance, 10 years ago when the court determined support, it only looked at what the Father's income was. In some state's, it's a percentage of up to 40% of your income if you got a judge that didn't like you. This means if you're 22 and working at Pizza Hut making $8/hour and the judge says for child support you have to have 40% of your wages garnished to pay support would put you well under the poverty line. This is regardless of whether your girlfriend had a cushy corporate gig making $60K a year with full benefits. Nowadays, there's been a big push for father's rights and father's rights attorneys are becoming a lot more common. The courts are starting to change course on a lot of previous frameworks. For instance, just on the income issue alone, most courts now look at both parents income when deciding child support. What if your girlfriend isn't working? Too bad, the court now takes into account if you have a college degree and basically assigns you a "potential income" based on previous work history and educational background to come to an estimated income. It's a lot fairer, but there were some really long, painful years being an unwed father and having to pay support.
zorpner 12y ago
I've been recently reading up about the subject ... Look online and you'll find countless stories... Your cognitive biases are being exploited by people with an agenda.

slowmotiony 12y ago

Yup, when somebody takes away your kids be sure to just call the cops and wait. Surely this will solve the whole thing right up.

6d0debc071 12y ago
Stalking and harassment, on the other hand, will surely be greatly in his favour if he ever has to go to court to get custody or visitation rights. Or if she decides to make a complaint about him.