> I'm not sure I'm making my point clearly enough, sharing in the success of someone else is not the same on a satisfaction level as achieving your own is. > B

> I'm not sure I'm making my point clearly enough, sharing in the success of someone else is not the same on a satisfaction level as achieving your own is. > By giving that money you are denying someone the chance of achieving that on their own and keeping parity with you. I don't refute the fact that it's a tricky situation, but I think you and the OP might be talking about different situations. There is a big difference between a fairly well payed programmer that needs to pay $20k of student loans and might take a while to do so but still live comfortably, and someone who is unemployed, the bank just repossessed his car and his family is about to be thrown out of their house due to unpaid mortgage. There were a few years when I was growing up when my parents' business was going under (and bleeding money like nobody's business) and things looked very bad. They managed to get out of that by their own eventually (at a significant cost, not just financially), but a lot of people don't.