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Tbh, I found the Washington Post profile of the moderator of /r/TheFappening to be even more fascinating. johnmcjohn frequented asexuality and Asperger forums a
by noname123 12y ago
Tbh, I found the Washington Post profile of the moderator of /r/TheFappening to be even more fascinating. johnmcjohn frequented asexuality and Asperger forums and voiced his frustration, and detailed his financial troubles and professional failures on LinkedIn and begged for money from strangers on Reddit and also moderated and advised users on /r/cocaine on how to obtain and use cocaine. "It's odd that a man with self-diagnosed asexuality created a forum as a trove of naked celebrity photos."
The degree of detail of personal information that we post online if someone resourceful enough like a reporter at WashPo can gather on ourselves, both our public or pseudo-anonymous personas truly reveal everything about our professional, psychological, financial and personal lives.
Recently, two events happened to me where I was confronted with IRL with what I said online which I thought was anonymous. I felt really uncomfortable initially because I felt simultaneously really rude to the people who have read my comments because it was my pure unadulterated thoughts without any real life filter; and exposed because there are honest thoughts of mine like stream-of-conscious thoughts that I'd never express in public to communicate to someone else, kind of like Jimmy Carter who answered "Yes, in my thoughts" to the question of "Have you ever cheated on your wife."
Going back to the main topic of discussion, if I was exposed to the core by WashPo, I'd be no better johnmcjohn. But like johnmcjohn who made his profile public again on Twitter because "there is nothing to hide," I feel honesty in all shapes of forms, even if it exposes you as a 33-year old guy with a questionable personal/professional background who shares celeb nudies is the way to go.
I post a lot of provocative comments on this forum; the first few times, it was because I felt arrogant or wanted to attack some of the people-types whom I disliked in real life online. But after someone replied to one of my comment and gave a good counter-perspective and made me learn new things and new perspective. It made me not afraid to be downvoted and keep being honest. I hope that more confrontations and humiliations come my way, so that I can learn from them.
- jacquesm 12y ago> thoughts that I'd never express in public to communicate to someone else But you did! That's sort of the whole point here. So if you do it because you think you are anonymous (as in your identity is divorced from what you say) but it is stuff that you'd never express in public then you have essentially crossed one of your own rules. You shouldn't say/do stuff anonymously that you would not say/do when you're identified.
- noname123 12y agojacquesm, I respectfully disagree with you. Communication between close friends is obviously different between communication during job interview/business negotiation. Sometimes it is the other way around that our real identity is divorced from what we have to present in public. There are different personalities who choose to use different means of communication - I know that preferred mode of communication on HN is to offer advice/encouragement/feedback to others' startups and technical/business career paths etc. like at a real life tech meetup's. But I gravitate the personalities of people's throwaway confessions of their burnouts, private frustrations and rants against the industry that quite often reveal more their personal vulnerabilities (which is universal in the introvert/geek culture) than technical matters (e.g., michaelochurch). Other people might take issue or feel personally outraged or just amused. But I don't use this forum with my real life handle/LinkedIn to build my "network," but as a way to express personal thoughts and get feedback from others relating to similar issues - which a lot of people do as well do (e.g., keeping a personal journal). So I think that's where the mismatched expectations comes from.
- jacquesm 12y agoInteresting viewpoint, I will have to think this over. Thank you.