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I have a similar situation. I had a close cousin contact me on 23 and me that I wasn't familar with. He is adopted and looking for his parents. My dad took th

I have a similar situation. I had a close cousin contact me on 23 and me that I wasn't familar with. He is adopted and looking for his parents. My dad took the test so we have narrowed it down. He recently found his mom, so I know it's his dad that I'm related to. Bottom line, we still haven't figured out who the dad is and I'm afraid to push it because it may cause an outcome like this. I invited the adopted cousin to a family reunion but he declined.

w0rd-driven 12y ago
Life is way to short to hide behind fear of the unknown. Think of yourself in these shoes? Would you want to be held back by someone well meaning? I personally wouldn't. I can't even begin to fathom what being estranged from your parents feels like and I'm not about to ever get in the way of someone trying to reconcile that if I have even the slightest bit of information that can help relieve that. It's not my place to deny them. If that brings hell to my family, I would tell them to put their big boy/girl pants on and grow the fuck up, full stop and I completely adore my family. This isn't a decision they get to stop, stifle, or refute. Let the estranged cousin make all the decisions. You're there to help empower them to do what they feel lead to pursue, nothing more or less. I hope none of this feels like a personal attack. At the end of the day you're still entitled to your decision and opinion. I just know how I would feel or act. The feelings of only one person matter in this instance and it wouldn't be me, if I were in your shoes.