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Keeping secrets isn't the problem here. Whether secret or known, why should any woman want a man that would be so careless with his own offspring that they end

Keeping secrets isn't the problem here. Whether secret or known, why should any woman want a man that would be so careless with his own offspring that they end up being adopted by strangers and searching for their parents all their life? Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman? Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who is apparently really bad at using contraceptives? Maybe it wouldn't have been a divorce, it just would never have been a marriage in the first place. But whatever the eventual result, the problem was that the father was a piece of shit.

PhasmaFelis 12y ago
> Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman? Are you trolling? Marrying someone with pre-existing children is so profoundly non-scandalous that it was the premise for The Brady Bunch.
- cpwright 12y ago
  Mr. or Mrs. Brady Bunch didn't hide the fact that they had previous children or relationships. Its very possible that the father lied to the mother about having the prior relationship. Its also possible that his previous behavior had nothing to do with the divorce, and it was his current reaction. Either way, I think the author being a geneticist should pretty much understand that if you're trying to find relatives, you might actually find relatives. I tend to think this should be opt-in, but as long as both parties have the box checked, it seems like perfectly valid functionality to me.
coldtea 12y ago
>Whether secret or known, why should any woman want a man that would be so careless with his own offspring that they end up being adopted by strangers and searching for their parents all their life? Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman? Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who is apparently really bad at using contraceptives? Because in the grand scheme of things all of the above are insignificant BS, that could happen to anyone, especially at a young age, without precluding that the man/women who had that would turnup a wonderful person to be with and a good husband. I mean "why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman"? What are you, 15-years old?
DanBC 12y ago
Humans are social animals. Humans often live in societies that value extended families where care-giving towards children are shared amongst a bunch of people who are not the parets of those children.

PhasmaFelis 12y ago

> Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman? Are you trolling? Marrying someone with pre-existing children is so profoundly non-scandalous that it was the premise for The Brady Bunch.

cpwright 12y ago
Mr. or Mrs. Brady Bunch didn't hide the fact that they had previous children or relationships. Its very possible that the father lied to the mother about having the prior relationship. Its also possible that his previous behavior had nothing to do with the divorce, and it was his current reaction. Either way, I think the author being a geneticist should pretty much understand that if you're trying to find relatives, you might actually find relatives. I tend to think this should be opt-in, but as long as both parties have the box checked, it seems like perfectly valid functionality to me.

coldtea 12y ago

>Whether secret or known, why should any woman want a man that would be so careless with his own offspring that they end up being adopted by strangers and searching for their parents all their life? Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman? Whether secret or not, why should any woman want a man who is apparently really bad at using contraceptives? Because in the grand scheme of things all of the above are insignificant BS, that could happen to anyone, especially at a young age, without precluding that the man/women who had that would turnup a wonderful person to be with and a good husband. I mean "why should any woman want a man who has children by another woman"? What are you, 15-years old?

DanBC 12y ago

Humans are social animals. Humans often live in societies that value extended families where care-giving towards children are shared amongst a bunch of people who are not the parets of those children.