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Why are you surprised to hear this? You're hardly the first person I'd expect to not realize the social stigma most men in the tech industry face trying to dat
by ahh 12y ago
Why are you surprised to hear this? You're hardly the first person I'd expect to not realize the social stigma most men in the tech industry face trying to date; combine that with the supply/demand in the Bay and you should expect that most men will struggle to date at all (really, anywhere on the west coast except maybe LA.)
- yummyfajitas 12y agoI've been to the bay area twice in my life. Most of my dating has been in either NYC or (recently) Pune, India. I'm aware the dating situation out west is unsatisfying, I just thought the issue was just that one might need to go out every night instead of only fridays and maybe compromise a bit on quality. The fact is SF has women and no parental supervision. How could it possibly be this bad? I'm honestly asking because I'm curious about the mechanics of it.
- ahh 12y agoThe mechanics are: you go to any bar and the ratio is about 10:1 on a _good_ night. All the girls are sick of seeing tech people and so will ask you what you do, and when they hear "Google", "Facebook", "tech", "engineer", or "programming", will walk away in disgust. (Literally. Hell, a friend went on a Grouper where the girls found out he worked for Google and immediately decided they'd rather wait the clock out on their phones than speak to him.) There is no step 2, as far as I can tell. One of the many, many reasons I left SF. (For Seattle, which is...marginally better, but not good by any measure, in this aspect.)