I'm a cis developer and consider myself extremely lucky to have grown up with super-strong female role models in my family. When working for others and overtly

I'm a cis developer and consider myself extremely lucky to have grown up with super-strong female role models in my family. When working for others and overtly treated in unpleasant ways due to my gender I was able to laugh. I started out in the mid-90s so by then it wasn't unheard of to have the odd women executive. But ultimately I had to quit as I felt excluded from all the things you comment on above. Now I run a team of devs myself, many of them young males, and I am really pleased that they don't see gender in relation to my role as boss/lead dev. For me the issue still remains in sales and high-level corporate deals. Recently I had the decision-maker of a very large company call me after a boardroom meeting to apologize for being hard on me in regards to some questions they had. During the meeting I was actually impressed by their knowledge and interest and I had really enjoyed the meeting. So it was sad when he called to say, "sorry for possibly making you uncomfortable". I don't think this would ever happen to a man.