i have a wife and 4 kids. i'm home to eat dinner with my family each day, i bathe my kids, i read to them for 15-20min before bed, i put them to bed, and then w

i have a wife and 4 kids. i'm home to eat dinner with my family each day, i bathe my kids, i read to them for 15-20min before bed, i put them to bed, and then watch a tv show or movie w/ my wife. wife goes to bed, i usually stay up another 2-3 hours coding, reading, watching cosmos/st:tng, or something like practicing drywall mudding/taping. family first, then work, then sleep. w/ priorities clearly defined, i never have a problem deciding what to do (be it saying no to work at 6pm, or going back to office at 12am). when i do read/code outside of work, i either focus on high level design pattern usage or on increasing knowledge of obscure js/css performance hacks. e.g. angular is dead-simple to write code for once you pay attention the patterns behind it instead of the conventions/syntax. otherwise it's a mess of hacked together code and googling for a better way to do what you're trying to do. frameworks come, frameworks go. learn the foundations well and the rest of it matters a whole lot less.