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So would you start hating the killer or start hating yourself for not teaching good vs bad. Plus - considering the other comment - the concept of permanency is
by bulte-rs 12y ago
So would you start hating the killer or start hating yourself for not teaching good vs bad.
Plus - considering the other comment - the concept of permanency is - at least in my very short experience - a difficult concept for a toddler.
- Strom 12y agoI don't think I would go from love to hate, as I've never hated anyone. It's just that my love would be lost. As for a toddler not understanding permanency, that may be. However I don't really subscribe to the idea of claiming something is true (e.g. unconditional love), and then later amending it when permanency is more fully grasped. Similarly, I'm clear from the very beginning that Santa Claus is a fairy tale. I want my children to trust me, and in my eyes trust isn't earned by lying, even when the reason is ageism.
- bulte-rs 12y agoThanks for the insights! I think you phrased it more like I actually think about it. You're absolutely right about 'instilling a bond of trust'.