On the other hand, your job will be very happy to expand and take all "family time" that you have voluntarily chosen to forgo. Going with the flow takes you whe

On the other hand, your job will be very happy to expand and take all "family time" that you have voluntarily chosen to forgo. Going with the flow takes you where the flow takes everybody else. You must first learn what is valuable for you and then plan your life around those values, not the other way around.