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This is no surprise. There's no metro area in the USA as cringe worthy as SV when it comes to relationships between men and women. Sexually frustrated neck be

This is no surprise. There's no metro area in the USA as cringe worthy as SV when it comes to relationships between men and women. Sexually frustrated neck beards and moderately attractive women do not mix. I can't even count the number of times a coworker has confessed his love to another, get rejected, then go out of his way to sabotage their career.

StandardFuture 12y ago
Does this come from the fact that most "computer nerds" spend their lives (whether by choice or 'lot in life') in pure isolation (if not physically then mentally)? In other words, does this void of 'sociality' in their life lead them to completely lack sympathy, empathy, and general kindness towards others? And does our tech environment (that encourages that lifestyle) also 'justify' that this mentality is not only okay but actually right. And by 'environment' I am not referring to the things we like to say (e.g. "Change the world", "put more diversity in the workplace(world)", etc.) but by the things we do (e.g. only hiring people that really are a lot like ourselves, if not just like ourselves).
- facepalm 12y ago
  How is falling in love with somebody (or even just being infatuated) displaying a complete lack of sympathy, empathy and general kindness towards others? Maybe you should work on your empathy...
  - StandardFuture 12y ago
    Imposing your own personal lustful attitudes on others who do not want to share in them and then feel internally justified (usually by the fact that no one you directly know is speaking critically of such types of actions) is very much so a display of a complete lack of any regard for other people's well beings (outside of you and your 'circle'). Edit: I thought about refraining from saying this but it really should be said: your comment is so beyond idiotic that it merits nothing except pure disgust and abhorrence.
    - facepalm 12y ago
      I think you are rather confused in your head. Being attracted to somebody is not the same as "imposing lustful attitudes". Your further comment just reinforces my impression that it is you who are severely lacking in the empathy department.
- icebraining 12y ago
  I see no reason to believe that the tech industry is any more sexist than any other industry with an overwhelming male dominance. For example, a poll from just a couple of years ago reported that one in four women reports workplace sexual harassment[1]. It'd be much less worse if this was a tech industry problem only. The sad reality is that we're knee-deep in shitty behavior. And I want to stress, since some seem people to take the opposite of the charitable principle when reading posts, that this does not in any way excuse the tech industry. It just implies that it's not due to lack of socialization; it's a general problem of men. [1] http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/11/one-in-four-u-s-women-reports-workplace-harassment/ http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/11/one-in-four-u-s...
bdcravens 12y ago
Sexually frustrated neck beards Source that this is the typical YC investor? Pretty sure this is an inaccurate generalization.
mqsiuser 12y ago
No one ever addresses the f__ked up lives that we (neck-beards, semi-down syndrome havers and others... normals) have. Flocked together, left alone to make the best out of the situation. Welcome to the real IT, enjoy!
personZ 12y ago
YC investors are not "neckbeards". Further, this is a professional issue in every industry, in every locale. In hospitals. On the factory floor. In the retail outlet. At the fast food joint. Put the sexes together and we're still trying to figure out how to make it work, trying to break free of the cloistered, sexist past. In New York, Boston, Toronto, and London. And ultimately you have to blame popular media to some degree. In movies or shows where attractive people work together, the plot of the movie virtually always has them coupling up. It seems, from a media perspective, that you can't professional work with someone of the opposite sex (talking specifically about that situation) without it becoming romantic.

StandardFuture 12y ago

Does this come from the fact that most "computer nerds" spend their lives (whether by choice or 'lot in life') in pure isolation (if not physically then mentally)? In other words, does this void of 'sociality' in their life lead them to completely lack sympathy, empathy, and general kindness towards others? And does our tech environment (that encourages that lifestyle) also 'justify' that this mentality is not only okay but actually right. And by 'environment' I am not referring to the things we like to say (e.g. "Change the world", "put more diversity in the workplace(world)", etc.) but by the things we do (e.g. only hiring people that really are a lot like ourselves, if not just like ourselves).

facepalm 12y ago
How is falling in love with somebody (or even just being infatuated) displaying a complete lack of sympathy, empathy and general kindness towards others? Maybe you should work on your empathy...
- StandardFuture 12y ago
  Imposing your own personal lustful attitudes on others who do not want to share in them and then feel internally justified (usually by the fact that no one you directly know is speaking critically of such types of actions) is very much so a display of a complete lack of any regard for other people's well beings (outside of you and your 'circle'). Edit: I thought about refraining from saying this but it really should be said: your comment is so beyond idiotic that it merits nothing except pure disgust and abhorrence.
  - facepalm 12y ago
    I think you are rather confused in your head. Being attracted to somebody is not the same as "imposing lustful attitudes". Your further comment just reinforces my impression that it is you who are severely lacking in the empathy department.
icebraining 12y ago
I see no reason to believe that the tech industry is any more sexist than any other industry with an overwhelming male dominance. For example, a poll from just a couple of years ago reported that one in four women reports workplace sexual harassment[1]. It'd be much less worse if this was a tech industry problem only. The sad reality is that we're knee-deep in shitty behavior. And I want to stress, since some seem people to take the opposite of the charitable principle when reading posts, that this does not in any way excuse the tech industry. It just implies that it's not due to lack of socialization; it's a general problem of men. [1] http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/11/one-in-four-u-s-women-reports-workplace-harassment/ http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/11/one-in-four-u-s...

bdcravens 12y ago

Sexually frustrated neck beards Source that this is the typical YC investor? Pretty sure this is an inaccurate generalization.

mqsiuser 12y ago

No one ever addresses the f__ked up lives that we (neck-beards, semi-down syndrome havers and others... normals) have. Flocked together, left alone to make the best out of the situation. Welcome to the real IT, enjoy!

personZ 12y ago

YC investors are not "neckbeards". Further, this is a professional issue in every industry, in every locale. In hospitals. On the factory floor. In the retail outlet. At the fast food joint. Put the sexes together and we're still trying to figure out how to make it work, trying to break free of the cloistered, sexist past. In New York, Boston, Toronto, and London. And ultimately you have to blame popular media to some degree. In movies or shows where attractive people work together, the plot of the movie virtually always has them coupling up. It seems, from a media perspective, that you can't professional work with someone of the opposite sex (talking specifically about that situation) without it becoming romantic.