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Try to raise children on one salary living in a high-cost city like San Francisco/Bay Area when the spouse can't work for six years. Then try to find a job afte
by ulfw 12y ago
Try to raise children on one salary living in a high-cost city like San Francisco/Bay Area when the spouse can't work for six years. Then try to find a job after six years out of work. I have friends whose marriage broke because of similar situations.
- cldellow 12y agoTo be fair, that one salary is likely $100-150K/year. The median household income in SF is $72K, so you're probably going to be OK. Plus, the partner who's not working has some very real imputed salary value. In fact, the economic value of a non-working partner is much higher in a high cost of living area than a low cost of living area. If they save you from paying for professional childcare, the expense saved may be $4K/month rather than $500/month. Ditto for other services, especially meals at home. As a Canadian who did three years of immigration horseshit in the US with a non-working spouse, the real issue is that your spouse is making a huge sacrifice of their freedom. Being a kept person can chip away at your sense of self-sufficiency and self-worth. The people I met in my situation all left the country (the majority) or had kids (one couple).
- bdamm 12y agoWell, I'm doing it. It hasn't been all that easy but nobody said immigration would be.
- induscreep 12y agoThe spouse is free to find a job that sponsors their H1B...absolutely no restrictions on that.