I'm sorry that this tragedy happened. And I'll never feel sorry when a rapist is called out. People I love have been raped, and their rapists don't deserve any

I'm sorry that this tragedy happened. And I'll never feel sorry when a rapist is called out. People I love have been raped, and their rapists don't deserve any sympathy. It's a truly devastating crime. I still feel guilty at not having been at Def Con that night to protect my wife from you. I still feel angry at her (and ashamed at myself for being so) for her poor choices that led to her being in a situation where she ended up blackout drunk and alone with you (someone she viewed as a safe friend of ours) Even if a woman makes the dumbest, worst, most ill-advised choices in the world (and I'm not saying this woman did) she does not deserve to be raped. (Edit: the previous sentence is aimed at anybody who shifts some or all of the blame to victims of rape. I don't believe that this woman's husband was doing that!)