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You make it seem like it's difficult to have a healthy social life without Facebook. I totally disagree. Friends ask each other what they are up to. Just becau

You make it seem like it's difficult to have a healthy social life without Facebook. I totally disagree. Friends ask each other what they are up to. Just because you're all on Facebook doesn't mean you stop talking to each other about events, etc. If you can only stay in the loop because of Facebook, that speaks more about the closeness of relationships you have with your friends. I've had a very enjoyable social life as a mid 20s guy (who deleted Facbeook) who goes out a lot and likes to make new friends. It felt like a risky move at the time, but deleting Facebook may honestly be the best decision I've made in the last year. Mainly, people are afraid of being judged for not having Facebook. In reality, most people don't care, and it is easy to take higher ground if someone does decide to judge you, because it is a little crazy (or arguably very crazy) to make your social life dependent on a website; tell them that if you have to. Texting, calling, and email are the bare necessities IMO, and that does not take a smartphone either. As a side note I think extremely low investment social apps like WhatsApp or Skype are very different than Facebook and nice to use.

speeder 12y ago
You say that as a extrovert... I am.introvert, and had no examples, my dad is a loner, and orphan to boot, I was never encouraged to go out and find friends. The few friends I have invite me over about twice a year, and using Facebook, if I deleted my Facebook I could provably drop dead in my apartment, my family would notice in 3 days, and my friends would never go to my funeral, because they would never know, maybe wonder after five years what I am doing with my life...
- practicalpants 12y ago
  I didn't have parental guidance, and I was more introverted at one time until I made a resolution to be more extroverted (and I'm still somewhat introverted, and happy I am too). It's something that's 100% in your hands right now. Go out and meet people. Get yourself on a path to being someone who is more social and outgoing. There's nothing preventing you, with time, from having more (better) friends and being just as social as others. It's very human. Starting points can be Meetup groups, hobbies, co-workers, even pickup people if you want to meet girls/guys, it doesn't really matter... just start getting yourself out there, and practice turning acquaintances into friendships.

speeder 12y ago

You say that as a extrovert... I am.introvert, and had no examples, my dad is a loner, and orphan to boot, I was never encouraged to go out and find friends. The few friends I have invite me over about twice a year, and using Facebook, if I deleted my Facebook I could provably drop dead in my apartment, my family would notice in 3 days, and my friends would never go to my funeral, because they would never know, maybe wonder after five years what I am doing with my life...

practicalpants 12y ago
I didn't have parental guidance, and I was more introverted at one time until I made a resolution to be more extroverted (and I'm still somewhat introverted, and happy I am too). It's something that's 100% in your hands right now. Go out and meet people. Get yourself on a path to being someone who is more social and outgoing. There's nothing preventing you, with time, from having more (better) friends and being just as social as others. It's very human. Starting points can be Meetup groups, hobbies, co-workers, even pickup people if you want to meet girls/guys, it doesn't really matter... just start getting yourself out there, and practice turning acquaintances into friendships.