Do you have help from either of your parents? Many of my friends who are trying the dual-income parenting thing (especially my friends from China for whatever

Do you have help from either of your parents? Many of my friends who are trying the dual-income parenting thing (especially my friends from China for whatever reason) will tend to have one of their mothers come and live with them, especially when the baby is young. If you live far from family members who can help, then you're trying to do TWO difficult things at once: 1. Dual-income parenting. 2. Parenting without extended-family support. You need to recognize that this is a thing. You may see other dual-income families and think "they make it look easy" but fail to realize that they are not attempting the same challenges you are. So don't feel discouraged if you can't do what they do. Either set your sights lower (one challenge at a time!) or try to get that help.